Describe the situation with time and place, name the observable behavior, then explain the impact on results or people. End by inviting perspective. For example: “In Monday’s standup, when you interrupted Priya twice, we lost her idea. What was happening for you?” Notice how it stays specific yet genuinely curious.
Use GROW to coach rather than dictate. Start by clarifying the goal in the other person’s words. Explore current reality and constraints. Brainstorm options together. Confirm will by agreeing on actions and support. It’s empowering because decisions are co‑owned, turning abstract aspirations into practical steps with accountable follow‑through.